7 Signs and Red Flags Your Partner Is Manipulating You.

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Abuse within relationships is not always physical in nature and so the tell-tale, outward signs may also be lacking. Instead of brute force, people oftentimes use manipulation to play off of their partner’s feelings and emotions. They do this for mainly selfish reasons, in order to control and get what they want out of the relationship. While we’re all guilty of trying to manipulate or control a loved one every now and then, some people take it way too far and end up causing real harm.

People who are under constant emotional strain caused by continuing psychological, verbal, and emotional manipulation often end up repressing their experiences. In a sense, they shut down and become numb to the hurtful things they hear over and over again.

It’s human nature to use denial as a coping mechanism and so they write it off or bury it deep down inside. Yet at some point things inevitably come to a head, maybe the person wakes up to what’s happening to them or someone steps in and helps, but before that happens things usually get to a very low point!

Manipulators use a range of tactics to deceive and break their partner down over time and because it’s more subtle and psychological, it’s harder to pinpoint and uncover. In order to put a stop to manipulation and emotional abuse, you need to first be able to recognize the signs and behaviors most commonly associated with it.

Below is a list of the main red flags and signs which point towards your partner being psychologically manipulative towards you:

1. You are always wrong and rarely ever right – Manipulators will always fight to have the upper hand in a relationship and to them that means always being correct. Even if they know they are flat out wrong or mistaken about something that can easily be disproved, they will stick to their guns and argue until you finally back down.

2. Your other relationships are disappearing or in bad shape – If you find yourself being cut off or pushed away from your friends and family because your partner disapproves of them, they’re alienating you from loved ones. Manipulators need to be in control and they want to be the ones who ultimately decide who you can and cannot see.

They will try to tell you how long you can visit for and make you feel guilty when you spend time with others. However, if your partner truly loved and respected you, they would not force you to give up friendships or cut you off from important people in your life.

3. You no longer enjoy things you once used to – It’s not only people you begin to distance yourself from, hobbies and activities you normally enjoy doing are also pushed to the side. People end up losing their passion for the things they once loved doing the most.

Between the guilt, sadness, and confusion that manipulators cause their partner to feel, it’s easy to get bogged down and lose interest in the things you usually enjoy. Don’t lose sight of your zest for life because of a manipulator, make it a point to jump back into old hobbies if you find yourself being pulled away from them.

4. You tell them everything but get nothing in return – Manipulators will dig and dig at you until you reveal everything to them, even your deepest, most darkest secrets that you never tell anyone. However, they will not tell you their secrets, nor will they keep what you tell them solely between the two of you.

Rather, they use them as pawns and will tell whomever they choose when it works out best in their favor. Usually this means that things are revealed in such a way that’s calculated to hurt and embarrass you as well.

5. You’ve become emotionally unstable- If your partner makes you feel guilty all of the time and no matter what you do or say they make you question everything, it’s enough to drive anyone crazy. Constant guilt is a heavy burden to carry around and leads to self-hate. You begin to devalue your worth and that in turn leads to depression, more stress and anxiety, and emotional turmoil. Only once you escape the manipulation and cycle of guilt can you begin to clear your head and become emotionally stable.

6. You feel unhappy and not like your normal self- When you lose sight of who you are because of your relationship, you end up feeling terrible and lost. Any changes in someone’s personality for the worse are never good, but when it’s caused by teasing and humiliation at the hands of your partner, it can quickly spiral out of control.

Manipulators do not care about your hopes, dreams, wishes, or desires. They will not help you reach any goals and may actually try to get in the way to make you fail. You’re left feeling all alone and unsupported, which makes you depressed and miserable. If that sounds familiar, you need to seek help before you sink any deeper.

7. You no longer trust anyone- After so much mental and emotional manipulation there comes a point where you stop trusting other people. It’s like you’ve grown to expect lies and deceit from everyone around you because that’s all you ever get from your partner.

If you feel alienated and unable to confide in old friends or family members, that’s as big a red flag as you can expect to find. It’s time for you to move on and distance yourself from the cause of all your distrust, aka your manipulative partner.

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6 Signs and Behaviors You Might Be With a Guy Who Is an Emotional Psychopath.

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Falling in love sounds like it’s so effortless and gentle, yet oftentimes it turns out to be the complete opposite of that. When it comes down to it, love and intimate relationships are never quite as easy as anyone wishes them to be. We’ve all dated people who were just our type and the same goes for those who were simply no good for us. Sometimes we knew right from the start that they weren’t the one, yet we stuck with them anyways!

However, the most painful relationship situation you could ever get into is ending up with an emotional psychopath. At first they’re deceptively charming and sweet, they have all the right moves and know exactly what to say to sweep you off your feet.

But over time they become less normal and less innocent, instead they twist words and situations to fit their selfish needs and you end up suffering because of it. As much as you may try to justify or rationalize their behavior, it is never okay and never will be.

Rather than live in denial or lie to yourself that everything is great and will work out in the end, you need to face the facts and dump the psychopath. That nagging feeling at the back of your mind is trying to tell you to get out of the relationship NOW, and you need to listen to it and move on!

Don’t ignore the obvious warning signs that you’re in a relationship that’s bound to fail with a manipulator who’s hurting you. Here are the clearest signs that indicate you are dating an emotional psychopath:

1. He Lies Endlessly In Order To Hurt Your Self-esteem And Bring You Down. Serial pathological lying is an emotional psychopath’s favorite way to get into your head and under your skin. They will distort the truth about any and everything under the sun.

Whether it involves making up small, insignificant details or coming up with major stories that are outright lies, they do it to throw you off and make you doubt your own self. He controls the narrative and in turn controls you.

The constant betrayal of trust shows a total lack of respect and is completely unacceptable in any relationship so if your significant other is always twisting the truth, get away from them fast because they will never change!

2. He Isolates You From Friends And Family To The Point You Have No One To Turn To For Help. When you give up other relationships and cut back severely on the time you spend with other people, you eventually end up alone. That’s exactly where emotional psychopaths want you, weak and dependent on them.

Not being able to ask a loved one for help means he has broken you to the point where you rely solely upon him and he is in control. Don’t let it get to this point, always reach out regardless of how alone you may feel, and stay away from anyone who tries to control your personal social life.

3. When Things Don’t Go His Way Or As He Expected, He Blames You. Emotionally abusive psychopaths are rarely as successful or important as they aspire to be in life. The way they try to abuse and manipulate people often ends up coming back to haunt them and as some people like to say, ‘karma’s a b****.’

However, when you are dating someone like this, they blame you for their shortcomings. All those unfulfilled dreams and chances that passed them by are your fault. He’ll say he gave them up or settled for less because of you, no matter what the truth may really be, and it’s all to make you feel bad and stay with him out of guilt.

4. When The Relationship Is Not Going Well, He Blames It Solely On You. When just about anything goes wrong in your relationship, he ends up saying that it’s all your fault, no matter how responsible he may be. By constantly discounting you and placing all of the blame on your shoulders, he’s trying to make you feel terrible and guilty about it.

Eventually you begin to actually feel that it is all your fault and that’s when he has you trapped. You’re giving him all the power when you stay with someone who negatively controls and manipulates your feelings in this type of way.

5. He Puts You Down Any Chance He Can Get To Make You Feel Bad. When someone is forever putting you down or judging you and the choices you make, it’s enough to make anyone feel miserable and negative about their own self worth. By belittling you and making incessant comments he’s breaking you down and making you feel defeated.

This type of behavior can quickly spiral out of control and become abusive and manipulative. When you no longer feel happy or respected because of his actions or words, you need to end things because he clearly doesn’t deserve to have you in his life.

6. He Is Always Unemotional.  Most men will initially put on a tough guy act whenever they meet someone new and they do this because they want to look strong and masculine. For some, it’s part of their nature. However, if the guy you are with never eventually opens up or shows his emotions, it may be due to the fact that he is an emotional psychopath who is incapable of experiencing normal, natural feelings.

If he’s always distant and cold, then it will be impossible to ever connect with him on that deeper level. Being vulnerable and emotionally available is a crucial part of love and commitment, so if he’s a blank slate, it’s time to move on.

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5 Simple Ways To Quickly Figure Out If a Person Is Toxic

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No one wants to be around a person who makes you feel bad about yourself; such “toxic” people can confuse us, however, as they can come off as being fun and charming, because they have honed their skills at being manipulative.  They are very good at disguising their toxicity by camouflaging their damaging behavior by being interesting, helpful and fun.  So the question becomes, how can you spot the warning signs of toxicity, before it impacts your happiness and self-esteem?

Whether you are dating a person, or you have a growing friendship, look out for these RED-FLAG TOXIC BEHAVIORS:

1. SHE IS A BLAMER.

You notice when she talks about conflicts with other friends, or issues at work, she never sees her part in the problem.  If you ask anything that might promote her reflecting on what she said or did, she will always come up with “yes but…”.  As conflicts come up between the two of you and you try to address the issue, THE BLAMER will become hostile and manipulate you into believing that you are the problem.

2.  HE SHOWS DISRESPECT TO PEOPLE IN SERVICE ROLES.

You go out to dinner and he talks to the server in a tone that denotes superiority.  He tends to break minor rules, acting as if they don’t matter and only apply to other people; cleaning up after himself isn’t his job and turning off his cell-phone in a movie theater is ridiculous…he can’t miss messages even if it disturbs others.  This is a red flag that he will likely treat your needs and feelings with disregard.

3.  SHE TALKS INCESSANTLY ABOUT HERSELF AND HER ACHIEVEMENTS.

If you feel like you can’t get a word in, you are in a relationship with a NARCISSIST!  When you try to share things about yourself, she will interrupt by saying something that makes you feel she is identifying with you, and bring the conversation back to herself.  If you stay in this relationship, over time you might have some major life success.  The toxic person will be uncomfortable with your success, because it makes them feel insecure and competitive.  You may find that they minimize your achievement, brush it off, or say something that makes you doubt your success by pointing out the negatives.  Your success means you need her less.

4.  YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS.

Anytime you want to discuss your feelings about something, that involves even the most mild conflict, he reacts as if he is being attacked.  He becomes defensive and aggressive, making any kind of conflict resolution impossible.  He turns everything around and eventually breaks your resolve, and then will quite unexpectedly show you love or affection.  He feels safe being close to you when you are weak.

5. WHEN SOMEONE ELSE IS THE CENTER OF ATTENTION THEY BECOME HOSTILE.

Other people’s glory makes her feel jealous, as exhibited by gossiping behavior that attempts to inflict damage to the other person’s reputation or friendships.  They suck the air out of the room because their needs must be met above everyone else’s.

In the VIDEO you are about to watch below produced by “ScienceofPeople.com”, you will hear an excellent guide to SPOTTING TOXIC PEOPLE, that names 7 PERSONALITY TYPES that are red flags which she names:

1. CONVERSATIONAL NARCISSIST

2. THE STRAIGHT JACKET

3. EMOTIONAL MOOCHER

4. DRAMA MAGNET

5. A JJ: A Jealous Judgemental Person

6. THE FIBBER

7. A TANK

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